Today I received my 2nd most favorite compliment in the world. Today a sweet friend said, ” you are like a vault”. Nothing anyone tells you leaves you. That is true & it felt good to have something that I see as one of my backbone pieces be seen & cherished. It’s one of my favorite things I love about myself & sometimes its hard as hell. I’ve never been good at keeping my own secrets, but I’ve always kept everybody else’s. In fact, some of my deepest deepest friendships are those that have seen that I don’t talk about others, even in the few circles it would be more than socially acceptable & in fact bring a lot of light to some insecure & dark souls hiding behind some smiling, but hallow faces. Those friendships are so full of depth & freedom, that I don’t understand why some people settle for anything less.
Its amazingly sad to see so many people talk about people in a confiding, trusting, or ‘prayerful’ way & they somehow make peace that their version of talking about someone makes it justified, & it’s not. Sometimes I don’t always fit in with women as they tend to point a lot of fingers at whoever isn’t there & mistaken my quietness for shyness rather than absorbing that idea that I don’t want to be associated with them. It’s a blessing that I can’t even count on one hand the women that have crossed my path that drip with insecurity & misplaced pride & yet I’ve found them to be poisonous. Women who build each other up, tell experiences without names, share empowerment, have self worth & self confidence have something so strong inside themselves that being that way becomes their only way.
This compliment, like my first favorite one came in the most unexpected moment from the most unexpected person & mattered to me in the most…yep..unexpected way. I hope you are brave and point out the beauty in others, that you hold your tongue when its hard & that you aspire to be a vault for those that need their stories safety kept… for in 30 something years I’ve only met a few women I see as toxic, yet there are so many other who could be diamonds, but they are so consumed with fitting in with the other rhinestones they don’t even notice the treasure they have within themselves. I love all my diamonds girlfriends, I love being a vault for your words, experiences, & heart hiccups… & most sincerely, thank you for being mine….
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